Mary took it particularly hard and turned to a number of spiritualists for comfort. Lincoln attended several séances during their time in Washington.One séance at the White House was conducted by medium Charles Shauckle, and was witnessed by a reporter from the Boston Gazette.She wrote Herndon in 1866 saying, “I suppose that my feelings were not sufficiently enlisted to have the matter consummated. Browning on August 1, 1838, describing his thoughts on Mary Owens, “…although I had seen her before, she did not look as my imagination pictured her.About the beginning of the year 1838 I left Illinois, and our acquaintance and correspondence ceased.”For his part Lincoln wrote a letter to Mrs. I knew she was over-size, but she now appeared a fair mate for Falstaff…her skin was too full of fat to permit it contracting into wrinkles, but from her want of teeth, weather-beaten appearance in general, and from a kind of notion that ran in my head that nothing could have commenced at the size of infancy and reached her present bulk in less than 35 or 40 years; and, in short, I was not at all pleased with her. ”It was an obvious jab at Mary Owens for leaving him, and most likely helped Lincoln get over his disappointment with the way the relationship ended. Browning by saying, “I have now come to the conclusion never again to think of marrying, and for this reason I can never be satisfied with anyone who would be blockheaded enough to have me.” was a breath of fresh air when she first visited Springfield in 1837.She stood five feet, five inches tall, weighed about 150 pounds, and was considered to be a good catch by many of the New Salem bachelors in 1836.They were together for about a year before Mary Owens broke off the relationship.
Both Lincolns were devastated by the death of their children, particularly Willie who died during their early days in the White House.Her acquaintance with Lincoln lasted a month at most before she returned to her home in Kentucky. The way Herndon tells the story, Lincoln said, “If Mary Owens ever returned to Illinois a second time he would marry her.” As a result they spent more time together on her second trip to New Salem.Mary Owens was the exact opposite of Abraham Lincoln.When we talk about Abraham Lincoln and his relationships with women one of the first questions we need to ask is, Did Abe play for the other team? Readers should keep a skeptical eye when approaching Tripp’s work.Several authors have hinted that Lincoln may have been a closet homosexual. Several years after the publication of his book one of his co-authors The most damning evidence used to tag Lincoln a homosexual is the fact that at several points in his lifetime he shared his bed with other men.